Clean-up vs Prep

… are more or less the same thing, but they feel different. Clean-up is orientated towards the past, while preparation looks to the future. Clean-up is the drudge work, while preparation is setting the stage for the next thing. Clean-up means “I’ve finished.” Preparation means “I’m ready.” Your office. Your kitchen. Your car. Your living room. Your sports kit. Your…

Things that help…

Reminding yourself that it’s worst at five (or two, or four) a.m. and will seem much better at ten. Doing routine things well and on time: exercise, breakfast, prayer or meditation. Focusing on the people you’re with – serving them, enjoying their company. “Acting as if,” and doing the normal things – the things you’d be doing anyway – as…

Obviously

If they knew what you knew, felt how you felt, had the right perspective, it would be obvious to them too. But they don’t. This means that – assuming that it’s necessary and helpful to point out the obvious in this case – the way you do it matters a lot: What are you going to do to help you…

Bark less, wag more

Rule 12. Be Kind – everyone is in a battle We go through life judging others. I’ve often wondered if one of the reasons we sometimes judge ourselves harshly is to give ourselves an excuse for judging those around us harshly as well. Judging has many virtues. It helps us decide who to spend time with, who to work with,…