In search of nuance

In an age of polarisation, we need nuanced understanding of people and issues more than ever. What does nuance mean to you? To me it means things like: Knowing some of the shortcomings of your side of the debate; Seeing – and not excusing – the failings (and worse) of people on your side of the debate; Looking for reasons…

Responsive (1): In good time

The way we respond to people – family, colleagues, strangers – carries a lot of information. Any response at all suggests that someone matters – whether because we like them or they’re otherwise important to us, or because they’re somehow in our way. The speed of our responses to people speaks volumes, and can send mixed messages. A fast response…

Scissor skills [guest post]

I pride myself on my ability to cut a good straight line. I enjoy the feel of scissors slicing through a fresh piece of paper: the beginning of some kind of a creation. I don’t remember the process of learning to use scissors myself, and I have watched with frustration my sons mangling paper with clumsy efforts. Evidently, this is…

On a friend’s fridge it said

Remember that you’re raising children, not solving problems. We do better when we think first about the people involved in all of the problems we’re busy solving.

The hard part: other people

Your work probably has several hard parts, and one of them is almost certainly other people. If only they would… … do their jobs properly / be vaguely professional / relate to each other as grown-ups / take responsibility / have a little consideration / not bring home issues to the office / leave you alone … … you life…