More than you can chew

“… only pausing to remark that many find it unnecessary to fill the mouth to its utmost capacity.” Misquotation of Pip in David Lean’s Great Expectations Eyes > Stomach I’ve more or less mastered the art of not taking more than I can eat.* Controlling portion size isn’t a problem, even if the number of portions I go back for…

The Toolkit – Part 1: Foundations (1)

This post is part of the working draft of the DriverlessCrocodile Toolkit (read more here). I’d love comments, links to resources related to the theme, and original contributions. Barking up the right tree Most of this toolkit is concerned with tools – including knowledge and ways of thinking – that will be useful as you work for change. But we…

The hard thing about soft skills

The hard thing about the ‘soft’ skills of courtesy and consideration is that they’re only partly skills. They’re far more about our attitude: how much we value other people and their purposes and feelings, and the interest and care that we show them as we go about our business. Consistently showing up for people – seeing, hearing and serving them…

Courtesy and cold fusion

One yardstick of wealth is how much you give away. It’s easy to run out of time and money, but there are no hard limits to your supply of courtesy and consideration. I’ve had several interactions with courteous, engaged service people this week, and they made a huge difference to a difficult week – I still feel glad about them.…

Passionate about their beliefs

This familiar phrase gave me pause when I heard it on the radio recently, used in praise of a cast member who passed away. It was a tribute to a loved colleague, but I thought to myself: “I hope they don’t say that about me.” Intensity can be a virtue. Passionate commitment can change the world – but direction matters.…

The toll gate

There were several cars backed up at the toll gate. Was the toll gate broken, or had the front car broken down? The problem was simply that the driver at the front of the queue had forgotten to top up their payment card – so they were stuck. They rifled through their wallet. Tried their backup. Thought for a moment.…

Not But

Not Competition Get-what-we-can Clocking in Dominance Because we feel we have to But Affiliation Generosity Showing up Significance Because we feel we should – and we can Hat tip: Bernadette Jiwa and Seth Godin

Motto (1): Be Kind

“Have fun, learn lots, work hard, be kind.” If you’re not… kind to others spending time with people who are kind to you doing work, reading stuff, making choices that will make you more kind, not less … then really, what’s the point? Kind doesn’t mean… … weak, or passive, or bland. It doesn’t mean lazy, or soppy, or aimless.…

Some rules for future success

Know what’s important… …and know what’s for you (and what isn’t)… … and act accordingly – NOW. Be ‘on assignment‘ – make stuff happen, get stuff done. Really – determinedly, doggedly get stuff done. Done is better than perfect. Find the right people. Say the words. Collaborate. Coordinate. Lead. All the time, be learning. In particular, identify and work on…